Saturday, 26 August 2017

Life Coach - Be Your Own-5


Focus On Your Breathing
“Yes! How can I live without breathing?” I hear you say.
It’s not in the breathing-- it’s in how you are breathing.
For example, when we want to relax we either head for the hills or the ocean. Why do we have this instinct? In the hills, we would normally head somewhere where there is a fresh stream nearby.
You are up on a hillside: clear air, fresh brook babbling by. The combination gives you a different type of air than what you would get in the city. The seaside does the same thing. That soothing sound and the waves hitting the shore creates ozone and that combination is the most relaxing environment you can find yourself in.
Our bodies instinctively know that we need to breathe in a specific way and specific amounts of oxygen to be able to relax. You will learn this today and practice it every day through the rest of your life. Even if it is fifteen minutes in the morning and fifteen minutes in the afternoon, do your relaxation breathe.
How do we do this? Let’s have a look!
Find a place where you can sit comfortably and not be disturbed for about fifteen minutes.
Close your eyes to focus your attention inward – when your eyes are open you focus your attention outward. The easiest place to focus your attention when your eyes are closed is about chest level, which is perfect if you are to concentrate on your breathing. Get in touch with your chest as it moves up and down. Moving up you’re breathing in, moving down you’re breathing out.
Let’s have a look at the next breath; we are going to start a bit lower than chest level. Focus on your bellybutton. See if you can move your bellybutton up and down. As you are moving your bellybutton up and down you are breathing into the bottom area of your lungs.
As your bellybutton moves up you breathe in and as your bellybutton moves down you breathe out. As you do this it may be slightly tender on your chest. That is fine, this means you have to take it easy with this exercise, don’t take it quite that deep. See if you can go just beneath your ribs.
Focusing just below your ribs is not quite as deep as all the way down to the bellybutton. If you feel discomfort, rub your chest with your hand, to release the tension.
Breathe as deeply as you can and then give a good sigh to let it go-- this will release the tension you may have in your chest muscles. This tension is due to stagnant air being released. You breathe all the way down (in) and up (out), just a little bit higher and up into your upper chest and out.
Breathe in, down to your bellybutton, fill up to your lower ribs and breathe out with a sigh. Breathe down to your bellybutton, to your lower ribs and then to your chest where you normally breathe and let it out slowly.
By now you will realize that your mind has calmed down, because you are focusing on what your chest and belly is doing.
Let’s do a few more breaths. Down to your bellybutton and let it out slowly, down to your lowest rib and let it out with a sigh. Take a shallow breathe into your chest and release with a sigh.
Let’s do a big breath, as you breathe in push out your bellybutton, then your lower ribs and then your chest and release it all with a sigh. Let’s do another big breath, as you breathe in push out your bellybutton, then your lower ribs and then your chest and release it all with a sigh.
Now that you are doing this exercise and you are moving your front muscles, you will find that your shoulders are getting a bit uptight as the front muscles are releasing, the tension in your shoulders build up.
To release, move your shoulders back and forth a few times, one by one. If it is a bit lower down your back, move your shoulders slightly forward and then wiggle the middle of your back.
While you are doing this, don’t forget to breathe. Focus on the area just below your ribs. You will find while you are doing this you are releasing tension in your entire body.
You may feel after a while you seem to be getting a headache. This is a very good sign; it means your detoxification is starting. When you start this breath work, make sure you have water with you, so that you can drink water as you start to detoxification. Bring your breath back to your normal rhythm of breathing. Sit there for a while and feel the difference in your body. Now that you are back to your normal breathing, open your eyes.
Why do I suggest that you close your eyes to breathe?
To focus on what is happening in your body, I suggest you shut out the world around you. This is done to help you focus on that is going on inside your body. After you have done this exercise for a while you can start doing the exercise with your eyes open.
Tim is 70 years old and does his breathing exercise together with tai chi, every morning. Tim says, “I don’t get sick, I do my exercises every day and I watch that I eat. This has kept me going for years.” He is healthy and always on the go.

What happens to your body when you do the breathing exercise?
Does anything change now that you have been doing this breathing exercise for 2 weeks?

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Next Week – 6 - Water and Physical Health

Life Coach - Be Your Own- 4


Time Management
This reflection gives you a way to switch between your logical and creative minds at whatever time you may need it. Your time line is an imaginary line. Created in your mind, this gives you the freedom to change your time line whenever you feel the need to change it.
Timeline reflection
Close your eyes.
Take in a deep breath and let it out slowly.
Take in a deep breath and let it out slowly.
Take in another deep breath and let it out with a sigh.
Bring your breath back to your normal rhythm
Imagine your timeline.
Where is your timeline?
Check in which direction your past timeline goes.
Check in which direction your future timeline goes.
Imagine a line connecting the two.
Orientate yourself so that you are on the line facing toward the future.
What does the future look like?
How far does it seem to extend?
If you feel it does not extend far enough or it is too long.
See yourself manipulating it to be the correct length.
Allow yourself to experience the timeline at a comfortable length that you can see the events of the future clearly, so that it makes planning easy.
Look back along your timeline toward the past.
What does it look like?
How far does it seem to extend?
If you feel it does not extend far enough or it is too long.
See yourself manipulating it to be the correct length.
Allow yourself to experience the timeline at a comfortable length that you can see the events of the past clearly, so that it allows for ease of memory.
Step off the timeline and face it square on.
Now you are through time in a Meta position to your timeline.
What do you think about your timeline?
What can you learn from it?
Step back onto your timeline.
Walk back into the past, noticing powerful resourceful memories as you go.
Stop when you feel you have gone far enough.
Walk forward, bringing those powerful experiences and resources with you into the present, like a presence from the past.
How does that feel?
Think of a future outcome that you want.
Step into the future at the point when you want to have it.
Look back from that future point to the now and imagine the steps and stages that you would have to have gone through in order to get from then (now) to now (the future).
Come back to the present with that knowledge of how to achieve your outcome.
Find your own timeline.
As you look at your timeline, how does it help you understand how you think about the past and the future?
For example, someone who has a short past timeline will have to cram many events into a short space and may have difficulty remembering exactly how long ago something happened.
Someone with a short future timeline may have problems looking far into the future, or may cram the future into a short space and lose perspective. (The length of your future timeline has no esoteric connection with how long you live. If it is short, it only means that you may find it difficult to future plan.)
Your timeline was not fixed forever at birth. You create it. You can change it. Aim for choice and flexibility – you will want to be in time for many pleasurable activities, but through time for planning activities in the future.
Whether you are through time or in time, experiment with both as follows.
Imagine stepping onto your timeline
If you are through time, imagine stepping onto your timeline so it passes through the center of your body. How does that feel? You may feel more grounded, more in the moment. Now step out again.
If you are in time, imagine stepping off your timeline and seeing it pass outside your body. You may feel a little more objective, a little more able to take an overview. Then step on again.
You have the choice. Being in time or through time are states and resources, depending on what you want to do.

Angela  – “I found it difficult to plan ahead, it felt like tomorrow and today is the same day and further forward was too close to see. I then did the timeline reflection and straightened and stretched my timeline to be more comfortable. I now realize that I felt like something was holding me back because my timeline to the future was very short. When I checked the past timeline this was short as well. I can now make plans for the future without feeling cramped in.”
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Next Week 5 – Focus On Your Breathing

Thursday, 17 August 2017

Life Coach - Be Your Own-3



Self-esteem
How much energy are you sending to others?  Perhaps you should be looking at how much you need for yourself.
I would like to suggest that you become aware of where your energy is going. Try this exercise for about a month.
Take a little notebook with you everywhere you go.  When you feel someone is draining your energy.  Make a note of the situation in your little notebook.  Then at the end of the month have a look at the pattern that is being presented to you.
What happens to your emotions when you are losing energy?
This will be a very good indication of the games you are playing.  So what does energy have to do with self-esteem? When you run out of energy, you become less confident, and less interested in life.
If you have people in your life that are always critical of what you do, have, and say, make them aware that you have decided to change your life and you feel it is time to experience the joy of life to the fullest and if they keep on focusing on the aspects that do not work they will have to go and have a pity party with someone else, as you are now converting to a happy life.
If they are people you would like to have around you, get them a gratitude journal and ask them to make a list of 100 blessings they have in their life. If they cannot find 100 blessings, assist them and you will both come up with the 100 blessings and more. Remember keep it light and say “Thank You.”
You know this is fun. When I did this recently with a person who had just told me she has nothing to be grateful for, I went to get some paper and a pen and said to her let’s have a look at what we can come up with and make a list of 100 blessings. She looked at me and said, “My life is a mess and you want me to make a list of 100 things I would call blessings?”
I replied with, “You can begin with paper and pen as you would not be able to do this exercise without them.” The 100 blessings list stirs up quite a few emotions, especially when they are done for the first time. Don’t panic they are good emotions, because most people do not realize how much they have to be grateful for. 100 may sound like a lot but you will get to 100 without effort.
Alison is one of those beautiful people everybody loves, because she always does everything for everybody. “When I first started doing for myself I was very uncomfortable. Over time I have learnt to balance between what I do for me and for others. These days I have time for myself and I don’t even feel guilty about it. I am happier and my family can see this and they are happy to support me.”

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Next Week 4 – Time Management