Life Coach - Be Your Own-14

Asking the right questions

Is your life going in the direction you would like it to go or are you wondering around without direction.  Are you asking the right questions? Perhaps you should ask them differently. Keep on asking questions until you get the correct answers. So what is the correct question?

You will need to connect to your divine self to get the answers. Make sure that you are asking open-ended questions, if you want information. These are questions that allows the "guide or person" to give you a long answer.

Be open to let the information come to you. This may be someone you meet, who suddenly starts talking about the subject you have been asking questions about. You may be surprised. Be open to the information, it may be what you are looking for.

The information could be coming in many other ways.  You can do a Reflection to meet your guide and ask your guide for the information.  The information can come in dreams. Start a dream journal. It is very possible that your guide would like you to have information that you are not asking for yet.  Allow your guide to do this in your dream. 

The information coming through, could be symbolic, and therefore will need interpretation.  Once you have written the dream down.  You can start interpreting it.  Use your gut feeling and imagination when doing this.  Allow your imagination to interpret the different parts, and use your gut feel to make sure that your imagination is correct.

Yes and no answers-- you can receive these by doing muscle testing. This can be done, by feeling space in your body for a yes and for a no. How do we do this? Think yes. And have a sense in your body that feels good; allow this to be your yes answer. Do the same with your no answer.

Another why of muscle testing is, you use your thumb and pinkie of your non-dominant hand and place the tips together. Place the thumb and index finger of your other hand, between the thumb and pinkie. Check for yes and no. Closed is normally yes and open is normally no.

Yes, I hear you, “How do I know that it is not my mind telling me what I want to hear?” I refer you back to the breathing exercises in day one and to the total body relaxation in day 3. Keep your logical mind out of it; all that it is going to do is upset your self-esteem.

Louis gets all her questions answered; “This took me a while to figure out. Once I got the concept and knew where to look for the answers, things started to move. It’s actually so simple. I think the biggest lesson, for me, was to trust the information my intuition is giving me and what my imagination was telling me, convinced me that I am not dreaming up these things and then learn how to interpret the information.”

Write a list of questions you would like answered and leave space for the answer and write it down once it comes to you.

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Life Coach - Be Your Own-13

Silence

As spiritual beings we need silence to find that part of ourselves that has all the answers, the part that is known as the void. To find the void one needs to be quiet.

This quiet is a bit more than not saying anything. It is quiet as in quiet your mind. Allow your physical being to be as tranquil as you possibly can, without stopping the breath.

When your body and mind are as tranquil as you can get them. Focus on a point within you that you deem to be your point of silence. When you have found your point of silence you’ll realize that you are totally and utterly at peace with everything.

When you are about to experience this silence point “set” your internal clock to bring you back to the here and now.

The point of silence is a direct connection to God. This is your soul, your divine spark that you have just made contact with.

Melissa says the following about her experiences of being silent, “I cannot see myself sitting quietly doing abstrusely noting, and really I do not have time for this. This has been my attitude for many years, until a friend suggested I come with them to a weekend away in the mountains. I could do with a break, they are great company and besides how difficult is it to be silent for a weekend. Did I mention it was a silent retreat they dragged me along to? I found it very difficult to be silent in the beginning, until I was shown some wonderful ways to accept myself, once I could do this I had the feeling of anything is possible. Now that I have found the connection to my higher self I regularly make time to be silent.”

 Making contact with the point of silence.                                                     

Do this on a day where you have time to spend with yourself in silence. Sit or lie down. Close your eyes. Make sure you are comfortable, take in a few breaths and allow your breath to slow down and allow your body and mind to slow down with it. Do the Total body relaxation if you feel this will help. Set your internal alarm clock to 20 minutes.

Locate a space within you that you can call your inner peace. Make contact with it. Make deeper contact with this space as you do so -- you may hear something. Then even the sounds go. You will find that at a point you will hear, feel, see, and experience absolutely nothing. This is your inner peace.

Now that you have been at your inner peace point for a while, allow yourself to come back into the room. As you come back just be there and allow the experience to be part of you for a while. When you are ready open your eyes and then look straight ahead at whatever is there.

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Life Coach - Be Your Own-12

Play a Little

This is different from the child you identified as your subconscious mind.  This is a part of you that stayed the child as the rest of you grew up, this part of your needs to be nurtured and love, it needs to play once in a while. Don't leave the time between playtimes too long.  As you can remember, the child needs a lot of attention.  If you have children of your own, experience being their age with them. If they are coloring in, do so with them.

You can even just take a piece of paper and crayons and scribble all over the page.  Feel what that feels like letting all those rules and regulations stand aside.  So that you can experience the innocence of not knowing what is right and what is wrong.

Dig a bit deeper into this feeling and find what altered or what you would like to feel in this state of innocence.  Bring this to the fore and ask yourself: where do I have limiting beliefs that do not serve me?  How can I change this and have a more playful, joyous outlook on life?

Okay!  Now we are getting a bit too serious, so let's have a look at some other games we can play. You can go to a local toyshop and have a look at the toys.  Focus on those you wanted as a child and for some reason, could not get.  See if you can afford them now, and buy them for yourself so that you can heal that part of you that would like to be nurtured by being playful.  When you have healed this part of you, you don't need the toys anymore.  Be nice and let other children have the toys.  I am sure you will find someone who will love to play with your toys.  I am sure; you can both do with a good giggle.

If you can laugh at yourself and the situation you can manage to get yourself into.  You are well on your way to being healed and life will be so much more fun.  It is important to pledge to yourself that you will quit being so serious and have more fun.  During the day, do something crazy at a spontaneous moment.  This will allow you to be more creative.  The amazing thing is, when you respond to things in the childlike way you can be a lot more creative.

Workshop: creative imagery

You are going to create our own workshop. This workshop is a special place to which you can return at any time.

To start, sit down comfortably. Close your eyes. Take in a deep breath and let it out slowly. Take in another deep breath and let it out with a sigh. Bring your breathe back to your natural rhythm.

Going to your workshop, use the lift. The life door opens from the bottom up. Become aware of the lift moving to the first floor. At the first floor, step out of the lift and into your workshop.

See a big screen against the wall straight ahead. In front of the screen see a stage. See a multifaceted glass glob hanging in the middle of the ceiling. To your right see a desk; see a large comfortable rotating chair at the desk. This is your chair, sit down in your chair and feel how comfortable you feel. Opposed you see two other chairs for your visitors. On the desk see a TV/phone, call a friend and experience the feeling of seeing someone who is at a distance. End the call as we still have a lot to do.

Return to the lift. To the left of you see a lounge suite; you may choose the design and color. To the right of you, behind your desk see a medicine cabinet. In it see medicine from the past, present and the future. To the left of you see a walk in wardrobe. This has clothes from the past, present and the future in it.

Select your favorite outfit and look at yourself in the mirror. Feel how good it makes you feel and then put it back neatly.

Let’s have a look at the stage, on the stage see a cucumber. See it grow to one meter, then to two meters, three meters. Now go near to it, feel how cool it is, smell the freshness of it. Experience its vibration. Now reduce it to two meters, then to 1 meter and then to its original size. Remove the cucumber from the stage. On the stage see a lemon. See it grow to 1 meter, then to two meter, three meters. Go near to it, feel it squeeze juice into your face, smell the freshness of it, it has a clean smell. Experience its vibration. Reduce it to two meter, then to 1 meter and then to its original size. Remove the lemon from the stage. On the stage see a stone. See it grow to 1 meter, then to two meter, three meters. Go near to it, feel how hard it is, climb on top of it, notice that there is a crack in it and start to climb down to the center. At the center experience its vibration. Climb back up and out.

Reduce it to two meter, then to 1 meter and then to its original size. Remove the stone from the stage.

On the stage see a tomato. See it grow to 1 meter, then to two meter, three meters. Go near to it, touch it, feel how slippery the skin is. Put your nose against it and smell the delicate fragrance of this fruit. Experience its vibration. Reduce it to two meters, then to 1 meter and then to its original size. Remove the tomato from the stage. On the stage see a grape. See it grow to 1 meter, then to two meters, three meters. Go and stand next to it. Open a slip into it so that you can get into it. Get into the fruit, take a bite out of the fruit, and experience the sweetness. Allow the juice to run down your face. Experience its vibration. Step out of it. Reduce it to two meters, then to one meter and then to its original size. Remove the grape from the stage. 

On the stage see a daisy. See it grow to one meter, then to two meters, three meters. Go and climb up the stem and into the center of the flower. Slide down a petal and bounce on it for a while. Let go and slide of the petal onto the ground next to the flower. Experience its vibration. Reduce it to two meters, then to one meter and then to its original size. Remove the daisy from the stage. Now that we have completed this experience make your way back to the lift. The lift is there waiting for you. Open the lift door and get in. Go back to the ground floor and get out of the lift. You are now back in the room you started off. Open your eyes and become aware of the room around you.

Make a list of toys you would love to play with and select some children you are going to pass them on to once you have had the experience of enjoying them.

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Product Manager

Start by deciding what you want. This expands on the eulogy and contract you did earlier. Over time your connection may improve and you may feel you have more to offer the world. This exercise is useful for that and general problem solving. This process comes from the here and now and then takes you to your highest connection with the divine. When I did this process the first time I got a symbol that represents who I am.

Sit down comfortably. Close your eyes. Take in a deep breath and let it out slowly. Take in another deep breath and let it out with a sigh. Now bring your breathe back to your natural rhythm.

Environment 

being in the right place at the right time.

See yourself standing where you can take five steps backwards.

Think of a difficult situation where you would like to have more choice, where you have the suspicion you are not using all of your talents, where you are not completely “yourself”. You can also use this exercise for a situation in which you want to make sure you engage all your talents. Perhaps you can have a look at an area in your life where you are feeling stuck.

Ask yourself:

Where am I?

Who is around me?

What do I notice in particular about this environment?

What year is it?

What date is it?

What do my surroundings feel, look, smell and sound like?

What is going on around me?

Behavior 

 You are not your behavior. Your behavior is as a result of what you believe.

See yourself taking a step back. Now you are on your behavior level.

Ask yourself:

What am I doing?

How does my behavior fit into my environment?

How do I respond to my environment?

Why do I respond the way I do?

How does what I believe affect my movement, actions and thoughts?

Capability 

behavior that is reliable, repeated and regular.

See yourself taking another step back. Now you are on the capability level.

Ask yourself:

How does my capability show up in my behavior?

What are my talents active and dormant?

What are my skills?

Am I expressing all the skills and talents I could use in this situation?

How can I bring out my dormant talents?

What skills do I have in my life?

What is the quality of my thinking?

What communication and relationship skills do I have?

What qualities do I have that serve me well?

What do I do well in any context?

Am I thinking creatively?

Am I using all my people’s skills to the best of my ability?

Beliefs and values

 beliefs are the principles that guide actions. Not what we say we believe, but what we act on. Beliefs give meaning to what we do. Values are why we do. They are what is important to us – health, wealth, happiness and love. Beliefs and values direct our lives, acting both as permissions and prohibitions on how we act.

See yourself stepping back again. Reflect on your beliefs and values.

Ask yourself:

What is important to my?

What do I find worthwhile about what I do?

What empowering beliefs do I have about myself?

What disempowering beliefs do I have about myself?

How can I change that to an empowering belief about myself?

What empowering beliefs do I have about others?

What disempowering beliefs do I have about others?

How can I change that to an empowering belief about others?

What do I belief that is different from others?

What do I belief that I feel is conflicting in my life?

How can I resolve this conflict?

Identity 

is your sense of yourself, the core beliefs and values that define you and your mission in life. It is built throughout your life and is very resilient. We express ourselves through our behavior; skills, beliefs and values, but we are more than all or any of these. You are not what you do or even what you believe.

See yourself taking a step back again and think about your unique personality and identity.

Ask yourself:

What is my mission in life?

What sort of person am I?

Who and what am I?

What do I want to accomplish in the world?

What symbol would express this best for my?

Beyond identity 

this is your connection to the realm of ethics, religion and spirituality– your place in the world.

See yourself taking a last step back. Think about how you are connected to all other living beings and whatever you believe is beyond your physical being.

You can consider this the spiritual realm. You may have religious beliefs or a personal philosophy. Take the time you need to get a sense of what this means to you. At the very least this is about how you, as a unique person, connect with others. What symbol would best express this feeling?

Get a sense of your connection to other people, to nature, to the Universe.

Identity

Take this sense of connectedness with you as you see yourself stepping forward into your identity level. Make sure you take the physiology of the last level to the identity level. Notice the difference this makes.

Ask yourself:

With the new information I just gained, does my viewpoint of my identity change?

Beliefs and values

Take this enhanced sense of who you are and who you can be, with the symbol that expresses it, and see yourself stepping forward to the beliefs and values level as you do this.

Ask yourself:

What is important to me now?

What do I want to be important?

What do I want to believe?

What beliefs and values express my identity?

Capability

Take this new sense of your beliefs and values and see yourself step forward to the skill level, keeping the previous physiology from the beliefs and values level.

Ask yourself:

How are my skills transformed and intensified with this greater depth?

How can I use my skills in the best possible way?

Behavior

Keep the physiology of the capability level and step forward to the behavior level.

Ask yourself:

How can I act to express the alignment I feel?

Environment

See yourself stepping forward into your real present environment right now.

Ask yourself:

How is my environment different when I bring these levels of myself to my present environment?

How do I feel about where I am with this greater depth and clarity from my values, purpose and sense of connectedness?

Does the situation look any different now?

Know that if you were to bring all this to the problem situation, it would change.

Slowly come back into the room. Open your eyes.

Marcel feels he works better when he knows where he is going; “I make time once a year to update my goals and set out my action plan for the year ahead. I do this because things change during the year and I may not have achieved everything I wanted to achieve last year. This then has to be worked into the year ahead.”

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