Saturday, 11 November 2017

Life Coach - Be Your Own-14


Asking the right questions
Is your life going in the direction you would like it to go or are you wondering around without direction.  Are you asking the right questions? Perhaps you should ask them differently. Keep on asking questions until you get the correct answers. So what is the correct question?
You will need to connect to your divine self to get the answers. Make sure that you are asking open-ended questions, if you want information. These are questions that allows the "guide or person" to give you a long answer.
Be open to let the information come to you. This may be someone you meet, who suddenly starts talking about the subject you have been asking questions about. You may be surprised. Be open to the information, it may be what you are looking for.
The information could be coming in many other ways.  You can do a Reflection to meet your guide and ask your guide for the information.  The information can come in dreams. Start a dream journal. It is very possible that your guide would like you to have information that you are not asking for yet.  Allow your guide to do this in your dream. 
The information coming through, could be symbolic, and therefore will need interpretation.  Once you have written the dream down.  You can start interpreting it.  Use your gut feeling and imagination when doing this.  Allow your imagination to interpret the different parts, and use your gut feel to make sure that your imagination is correct.
Yes and no answers-- you can receive these by doing muscle testing. This can be done, by feeling space in your body for a yes and for a no. How do we do this? Think yes. And have a sense in your body that feels good; allow this to be your yes answer. Do the same with your no answer.
Another why of muscle testing is, you use your thumb and pinkie of your non-dominant hand and place the tips together. Place the thumb and index finger of your other hand, between the thumb and pinkie. Check for yes and no. Closed is normally yes and open is normally no.
Yes, I hear you, “How do I know that it is not my mind telling me what I want to hear?” I refer you back to the breathing exercises in day one and to the total body relaxation in day 3. Keep your logical mind out of it; all that it is going to do is upset your self-esteem.
Louis gets all her questions answered; “This took me a while to figure out. Once I got the concept and knew where to look for the answers, things started to move. It’s actually so simple. I think the biggest lesson, for me, was to trust the information my intuition is giving me and what my imagination was telling me, convinced me that I am not dreaming up these things and then learn how to interpret the information.”
Write a list of questions you would like answered and leave space for the answer and write it down once it comes to you.

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Next Week – 15 - Intuitive Energy Healing

Life Coach - Be Your Own-13


Silence
As spiritual beings we need silence to find that part of ourselves that has all the answers, the part that is known as the void. To find the void one needs to be quiet.
This quiet is a bit more than not saying anything. It is quiet as in quiet your mind. Allow your physical being to be as tranquil as you possibly can, without stopping the breath.
When your body and mind are as tranquil as you can get them. Focus on a point within you that you deem to be your point of silence. When you have found your point of silence you’ll realize that you are totally and utterly at peace with everything.
When you are about to experience this silence point “set” your internal clock to bring you back to the here and now.
The point of silence is a direct connection to God. This is your soul, your divine spark that you have just made contact with.
Melissa says the following about her experiences of being silent, “I cannot see myself sitting quietly doing abstrusely noting, and really I do not have time for this. This has been my attitude for many years, until a friend suggested I come with them to a weekend away in the mountains. I could do with a break, they are great company and besides how difficult is it to be silent for a weekend. Did I mention it was a silent retreat they dragged me along to? I found it very difficult to be silent in the beginning, until I was shown some wonderful ways to accept myself, once I could do this I had the feeling of anything is possible. Now that I have found the connection to my higher self I regularly make time to be silent.”

 Making contact with the point of silence.                                                     

Do this on a day where you have time to spend with yourself in silence. Sit or lie down. Close your eyes. Make sure you are comfortable, take in a few breaths and allow your breath to slow down and allow your body and mind to slow down with it. Do the Total body relaxation if you feel this will help. Set your internal alarm clock to 20 minutes.
Locate a space within you that you can call your inner peace. Make contact with it. Make deeper contact with this space as you do so -- you may hear something. Then even the sounds go. You will find that at a point you will hear, feel, see, and experience absolutely nothing. This is your inner peace.
Now that you have been at your inner peace point for a while, allow yourself to come back into the room. As you come back just be there and allow the experience to be part of you for a while. When you are ready open your eyes and then look straight ahead at whatever is there.

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Next Week – 14 - Asking the right questions

Life Coach - Be Your Own-12


Play a Little
This is different from the child you identified as your subconscious mind.  This is a part of you that stayed the child as the rest of you grew up, this part of your needs to be nurtured and love, it needs to play once in a while. Don't leave the time between playtimes too long.  As you can remember, the child needs a lot of attention.  If you have children of your own, experience being their age with them. If they are coloring in, do so with them.
You can even just take a piece of paper and crayons and scribble all over the page.  Feel what that feels like letting all those rules and regulations stand aside.  So that you can experience the innocence of not knowing what is right and what is wrong.
Dig a bit deeper into this feeling and find what altered or what you would like to feel in this state of innocence.  Bring this to the fore and ask yourself: where do I have limiting beliefs that do not serve me?  How can I change this and have a more playful, joyous outlook on life?
Okay!  Now we are getting a bit too serious, so let's have a look at some other games we can play. You can go to a local toyshop and have a look at the toys.  Focus on those you wanted as a child and for some reason, could not get.  See if you can afford them now, and buy them for yourself so that you can heal that part of you that would like to be nurtured by being playful.  When you have healed this part of you, you don't need the toys anymore.  Be nice and let other children have the toys.  I am sure you will find someone who will love to play with your toys.  I am sure; you can both do with a good giggle.
If you can laugh at yourself and the situation you can manage to get yourself into.  You are well on your way to being healed and life will be so much more fun.  It is important to pledge to yourself that you will quit being so serious and have more fun.  During the day, do something crazy at a spontaneous moment.  This will allow you to be more creative.  The amazing thing is, when you respond to things in the childlike way you can be a lot more creative.

Workshop: creative imagery

You are going to create our own workshop. This workshop is a special place to which you can return at any time.
To start, sit down comfortably. Close your eyes. Take in a deep breath and let it out slowly. Take in another deep breath and let it out with a sigh. Bring your breathe back to your natural rhythm.
Going to your workshop, use the lift. The life door opens from the bottom up. Become aware of the lift moving to the first floor. At the first floor, step out of the lift and into your workshop.
See a big screen against the wall straight ahead. In front of the screen see a stage. See a multifaceted glass glob hanging in the middle of the ceiling. To your right see a desk; see a large comfortable rotating chair at the desk. This is your chair, sit down in your chair and feel how comfortable you feel. Opposed you see two other chairs for your visitors. On the desk see a TV/phone, call a friend and experience the feeling of seeing someone who is at a distance. End the call as we still have a lot to do.
Return to the lift. To the left of you see a lounge suite; you may choose the design and color. To the right of you, behind your desk see a medicine cabinet. In it see medicine from the past, present and the future. To the left of you see a walk in wardrobe. This has clothes from the past, present and the future in it.
Select your favorite outfit and look at yourself in the mirror. Feel how good it makes you feel and then put it back neatly.
Let’s have a look at the stage, on the stage see a cucumber. See it grow to one meter, then to two meters, three meters. Now go near to it, feel how cool it is, smell the freshness of it. Experience its vibration. Now reduce it to two meters, then to 1 meter and then to its original size. Remove the cucumber from the stage. On the stage see a lemon. See it grow to 1 meter, then to two meter, three meters. Go near to it, feel it squeeze juice into your face, smell the freshness of it, it has a clean smell. Experience its vibration. Reduce it to two meter, then to 1 meter and then to its original size. Remove the lemon from the stage. On the stage see a stone. See it grow to 1 meter, then to two meter, three meters. Go near to it, feel how hard it is, climb on top of it, notice that there is a crack in it and start to climb down to the center. At the center experience its vibration. Climb back up and out.
Reduce it to two meter, then to 1 meter and then to its original size. Remove the stone from the stage.
On the stage see a tomato. See it grow to 1 meter, then to two meter, three meters. Go near to it, touch it, feel how slippery the skin is. Put your nose against it and smell the delicate fragrance of this fruit. Experience its vibration. Reduce it to two meters, then to 1 meter and then to its original size. Remove the tomato from the stage. On the stage see a grape. See it grow to 1 meter, then to two meters, three meters. Go and stand next to it. Open a slip into it so that you can get into it. Get into the fruit, take a bite out of the fruit, and experience the sweetness. Allow the juice to run down your face. Experience its vibration. Step out of it. Reduce it to two meters, then to one meter and then to its original size. Remove the grape from the stage. 
On the stage see a daisy. See it grow to one meter, then to two meters, three meters. Go and climb up the stem and into the center of the flower. Slide down a petal and bounce on it for a while. Let go and slide of the petal onto the ground next to the flower. Experience its vibration. Reduce it to two meters, then to one meter and then to its original size. Remove the daisy from the stage. Now that we have completed this experience make your way back to the lift. The lift is there waiting for you. Open the lift door and get in. Go back to the ground floor and get out of the lift. You are now back in the room you started off. Open your eyes and become aware of the room around you.





Make a list of toys you would love to play with and select some children you are going to pass them on to once you have had the experience of enjoying them.

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Next Week – 13 - Silence

Life Coach - Be Your Own-11


Product Manager
Start by deciding what you want. This expands on the eulogy and contract you did earlier. Over time your connection may improve and you may feel you have more to offer the world. This exercise is useful for that and general problem solving. This process comes from the here and now and then takes you to your highest connection with the divine. When I did this process the first time I got a symbol that represents who I am.
Sit down comfortably. Close your eyes. Take in a deep breath and let it out slowly. Take in another deep breath and let it out with a sigh. Now bring your breathe back to your natural rhythm.

Environment 

being in the right place at the right time.
See yourself standing where you can take five steps backwards.
Think of a difficult situation where you would like to have more choice, where you have the suspicion you are not using all of your talents, where you are not completely “yourself”. You can also use this exercise for a situation in which you want to make sure you engage all your talents. Perhaps you can have a look at an area in your life where you are feeling stuck.
Ask yourself:
Where am I?
Who is around me?
What do I notice in particular about this environment?
What year is it?
What date is it?
What do my surroundings feel, look, smell and sound like?
What is going on around me?

Behavior 

 You are not your behavior. Your behavior is as a result of what you believe.
See yourself taking a step back. Now you are on your behavior level.
Ask yourself:
What am I doing?
How does my behavior fit into my environment?
How do I respond to my environment?
Why do I respond the way I do?
How does what I believe affect my movement, actions and thoughts?

Capability 

behavior that is reliable, repeated and regular.
See yourself taking another step back. Now you are on the capability level.
Ask yourself:
How does my capability show up in my behavior?
What are my talents active and dormant?
What are my skills?
Am I expressing all the skills and talents I could use in this situation?
How can I bring out my dormant talents?
What skills do I have in my life?
What is the quality of my thinking?
What communication and relationship skills do I have?
What qualities do I have that serve me well?
What do I do well in any context?
Am I thinking creatively?
Am I using all my people’s skills to the best of my ability?

Beliefs and values

 beliefs are the principles that guide actions. Not what we say we believe, but what we act on. Beliefs give meaning to what we do. Values are why we do. They are what is important to us – health, wealth, happiness and love. Beliefs and values direct our lives, acting both as permissions and prohibitions on how we act.
See yourself stepping back again. Reflect on your beliefs and values.
Ask yourself:
What is important to my?
What do I find worthwhile about what I do?
What empowering beliefs do I have about myself?
What disempowering beliefs do I have about myself?
How can I change that to an empowering belief about myself?
What empowering beliefs do I have about others?
What disempowering beliefs do I have about others?
How can I change that to an empowering belief about others?
What do I belief that is different from others?
What do I belief that I feel is conflicting in my life?
How can I resolve this conflict?

Identity 

is your sense of yourself, the core beliefs and values that define you and your mission in life. It is built throughout your life and is very resilient. We express ourselves through our behavior; skills, beliefs and values, but we are more than all or any of these. You are not what you do or even what you believe.
See yourself taking a step back again and think about your unique personality and identity.
Ask yourself:
What is my mission in life?
What sort of person am I?
Who and what am I?
What do I want to accomplish in the world?
What symbol would express this best for my?

Beyond identity 

this is your connection to the realm of ethics, religion and spirituality– your place in the world.
See yourself taking a last step back. Think about how you are connected to all other living beings and whatever you believe is beyond your physical being.
You can consider this the spiritual realm. You may have religious beliefs or a personal philosophy. Take the time you need to get a sense of what this means to you. At the very least this is about how you, as a unique person, connect with others. What symbol would best express this feeling?
Get a sense of your connection to other people, to nature, to the Universe.

Identity

Take this sense of connectedness with you as you see yourself stepping forward into your identity level. Make sure you take the physiology of the last level to the identity level. Notice the difference this makes.
Ask yourself:
With the new information I just gained, does my viewpoint of my identity change?

Beliefs and values

Take this enhanced sense of who you are and who you can be, with the symbol that expresses it, and see yourself stepping forward to the beliefs and values level as you do this.
Ask yourself:
What is important to me now?
What do I want to be important?
What do I want to believe?
What beliefs and values express my identity?

Capability

Take this new sense of your beliefs and values and see yourself step forward to the skill level, keeping the previous physiology from the beliefs and values level.
Ask yourself:
How are my skills transformed and intensified with this greater depth?
How can I use my skills in the best possible way?

Behavior

Keep the physiology of the capability level and step forward to the behavior level.
Ask yourself:
How can I act to express the alignment I feel?

Environment

See yourself stepping forward into your real present environment right now.
Ask yourself:
How is my environment different when I bring these levels of myself to my present environment?
How do I feel about where I am with this greater depth and clarity from my values, purpose and sense of connectedness?
Does the situation look any different now?
Know that if you were to bring all this to the problem situation, it would change.
Slowly come back into the room. Open your eyes.

Marcel feels he works better when he knows where he is going; “I make time once a year to update my goals and set out my action plan for the year ahead. I do this because things change during the year and I may not have achieved everything I wanted to achieve last year. This then has to be worked into the year ahead.”

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Next Week – 12 - Play a Little

Monday, 23 October 2017

Life Coach - Be Your Own-10


Managing Anger

Focus on an area in your body that is giving you pain or any other sensation.

Sit quietly; allow your attention to focus on your body. Are there any specific areas in your body that seem to have more sensation than others?
Pay attention to these areas of sensation one by one. Now that you are focusing on a specific area identify the shape of the sensation. What color is it? What shape is it? Does it make a sound?
Now that you have all this information, change the color to a color you are more comfortable with, change the shape what feels comfortable and change the sound to a sound that is soothing to you. Ok! Now check if the sensation has changed if you would like to change it some more, redo this process.
You are probably looking at this process and thinking Irene you have lost it, it is not possible that something this simple can make the pain I am feeling go away. That is the first thing you will have to change. Everything in life depends on attitude and this includes our health.
The past winter was difficult for me. I am a summer baby, is what I tell people, in winter I would make a good bear, hibernation really appeals to me. This last winter I made up me mind not to get ‘flu, it is a belief that I should feel bad about life and myself in winter. What did I do, I started in summer and got a fitness programmed going, this includes eating properly, exercising and going for a treatment every second week.

 Anger process

You should never take anger out on another person.
Some people respond very well to physical exercise to get rid of anger.
Go jogging or go to gym, do something just get it out of your system. Get it out!

 Process one:

With the first anger process you need a buddy, someone you can trust to support you.
You also need to do some preparation.
Tightly roll up a newspaper and wind wide tape around the entire roll so that it looks like a batten.
Find a hand towel to wipe your face, neck and hands.
Prepare a bowl of warm water with a clean cloth in it.
Find a blanket to cover yourself after the process.
Make sure there is nothing in the room you can break or that can hurt you.
Wear comfortable clothing.
Now that you are prepared, ask your buddy to sit away from you.
Take the newspaper batten in your hand and start beating the floor. Do this until you have no more energy left.
During this process it is okay to say whatever comes into your mind. When you have completed the process, your buddy will assist you to lie down on your back to relax. At this point your buddy will wipe your face, neck and hands with the cloth that was submerged in the water.
Your buddy will cover you with the blanket.

 Process two:

Take an old thick telephone directory or anything you can tear up and start tearing it up.
It’s best to tear it into pieces as small as you possibly can.
After the process, lie down on the floor and relax.

 Process three:

A punch bag: You can use a boxer’s punch bag or you can use a cushion as a punch bag. Punch it until you have no more energy left. Then lie down and relax. Drink some water to re-hydrate your body.

 Process four:

Releasing anger in positive ways.
Speak to the person you are angry with. Say I am angry at you because__________
Speak to the person in the mirror; find a safe place that you will not be disturbed. Show all the anger you feel. Get all your feelings out. You may let your anger out physically. This you can do by punching a pillow. Forgive the person or persons you do this for yourself.

 Forgiveness process

Keep in mind that you only need to forgive someone if you expected something from him or her and this did not occur.

 Process one

This is a very effective and powerful process.
It works best with an imaginary.
Sit or lie down comfortably; then you breath slowly and deeply to relax.
Visualize yourself sitting in a chair and around you is everybody that you need to forgive.
Once everybody is sitting around you, look into the eyes of the person who is sitting in front of you and say, “I forgive you”.
You don’t need to get a response from the person.
Look the next person in the eyes and say, “I forgive you”.
While you are absorbed in this process, also try to see the dignity in the other person’s eyes.
If you can see the true worth of the other person, it makes the forgiveness so much easier.
You do not have to say what you forgive the person for that is not important.
What’s important is that you forgive them.
If you feel you need to release the psychic connection or the energy connection, what you need to do then, is visualized a cord between you and that person, and then the cord being removed from your chakra.
You can’t just pull it out of you because you will damage your energy system. You need to gently remove the psychic cord and visualize your chakra working properly without it.
Just give your chakra a bit of extra energy, to heal it.
When you come to the last person, don’t stop – you haven’t forgiven the most important person yet.
Imagine a mirror in the last chair.
Look into your own eyes.
This could be the most difficult of all for you.
Look at yourself in the mirror say, “I forgive you”.
Now that you have forgiven everybody, including yourself, perhaps what’s required here, is you need to forgive the Universe.
Still sitting in your chair relaxing now say, “Universe I forgive you.” This is one way of doing the forgiveness process; it is quite a potent way.

 Process two

Another forgiveness process is, to write a list in the following way:
Name of person, I forgive you.
And I forgive myself and
Universe I forgive you.
Now that you have completed your list, get yourself into a meditative state and read through the list.
Once you have read through the list, let it go!
Light the piece of paper and let it burn …

Process three

Make a list of the following:
Who have I loved?
Who have I not loved?
Who have I forgiven?
Who have I not forgiven?
When you forgive & let go, not only does a huge weight drop off your shoulders, but the doorway to your own self-love opens.
I forgive everyone who has ever been in my life.
I forgive everyone who is in my life now.
I forgive everyone who will be in my life in the future.
I forgive all of them totally.
I forgive the world totally.
I forgive my parents totally.
I forgive myself totally.
I forgive God totally.

Jack did not think he needed to do anything he is just fine. “I have been angry for many years and I didn’t do anything about it because I felt like I was the one being angry at people making my life a misery. Until I went to a talk and the person was saying that everything that happens to me is my doing and I should forgive the people. I was so angry I could not even argue, as I wanted to, after the talk I had calmed down somewhat and I went up to the speaker to tell her exactly what I thought. She calmly explained to me how it works and how she sees it working for me. I did the anger process and felt much better afterwards. I was not done just yet as I still had a forgiveness process to do. The strange thing is I found this more difficult. I did the Reflection in which you see the people in the chairs around you. After these two processes I felt so much better I wondered why I did not do them years ago. I was not ready years ago.”

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Next Week -10 - Product Manager

Life Coach - Be Your Own-9C



The field -- this is the energy field -- All that is.

When I have misplaced something, and I have a need for it.  I ask my runner guide, "Please find ____________ for me."  Then I allow an indication of where it is to come into my mind.  The item is normally, where it was indicated to be.  The indication could come to you straight away, or you can go on and do something else, an indication will come to you. While you are busy, stay open to receive the indications.
The same thing works for connecting to people.  This is how telepathy works. If you're thinking of someone the whole day, if you have had a busy day, and you get home and think of the same person again. This gives you an indication that you should call him or her. You will find that had a miserable day, or something happened that was particularly unpleasant for them.
You can tap into the field for information.  For example, you know someone who has a lot of knowledge or a good organization that has a lot of knowledge, because an organization also has a field as a family or human being does.
Tapping into knowledge; see a hand of energy from your heart chakra to their heart chakra. The person does not have to be in the room with you. The person can be anywhere.
Close your eyes and see this hand of energy come out of your heart chakra and connect into his or her heart chakra.  As a hand of energy goes into his or her heart chakra you see their inner child.  You then ask this child to take you to their mind.  So allow the child to take you up to the brain, as this is where we would expect the mind to be. Then you can tap into the information you would like to gain.

Be present in the now.  You may miss something, if you are not.

What I have found for myself is if I set a timer, and I say,  I am working for this length of time,  I am more focused.  Be present in the now, actually means be focused on what you are doing and do not allow your mind to distract you.  Unless you’re looking for information, then you will be tapping into the field.

You can change your mind about anything, even breathing.

You came to this planet to have certain experiences and you have decided that a particular life purpose is what will work for you in this lifetime.  Now realize that if you feel it's not you, you can change that.  Whatever happens in your life that you would prefer not to happen, don’t get upset or deny its existence, learn the lesson and find out what the way is to prevent it from happening again.
When somebody passes away, often people get very sad.  What I would like to say about it is, don't be sad.  It is their choice.  Fine, you'll probably miss them.  Don't worry; you will see them again very soon, as we seem to have lifetimes that we spent together.  A group of Souls come in together and we seem to do that over and over again, so that we can experience each other's essence, and learn together.
 As life is your choice, you can choose to change any experience you would like to. Part of the lessons of life is to figure out how we control what happens and then make the changes required.

Reality and Illusion

What is real, and what is not, really? This world we see-- is it real or is it just a game?  Try this scenario to explain it; is it virtual reality, considering we are on a data network?  You can have one or more virtual networks, on one physical network.  The people on the virtual network can only see the people on that particular network.  They do not even realize that there is another network.  They believe they are the only people using this network, as do the people on the other virtual networks.  However, they are all using the same physical network. 
However, they cannot see each other, and they cannot communicate with each other unless something goes faulty and there’s a connection.
What does this have to do with reality and illusion?  The virtual network is an illusion, that group of people believe they are the only ones using that network. The reality is, there are many more people on the same physical network, disconnected from each other by the virtual networks, therefore when it comes to the energy Systems of people, some of us are connected to each other in a particular group; others are connected to each other in a different group.  It is very possible that these groups do not interconnect with each other.  However, the energy system, they are part of is the one and the same thing.

This brings us to like attracts like.

Here, I would like to bring in my story of two radio base stations (radio transmitter and receiver) that are communicating with each other.  The transmitter sends out a frequency, and the receiver has received this. A base station at a distance away can receive the signal as well.  The analogy here is for the faraway receiver to be able to perceive the single it has to be tuned to the same frequency as the transmitter. The base station at a distance is receiving the signal as well as tuned to the same frequency.
To me this is how telepathy works.  You may be thinking of somebody the whole day, and when you phone him or her in the evening.  You realize they have had a tough day, and that is why you were thinking of them.  A person, some distance away can be receiving the same signals as you.  As we are all tuned into the same family field.  This family is not necessarily your physical family.  This is your spiritual family.  And you are connected by like energies.
Someone else can just tune in with remove viewing. This is how the distant base station can pick up the signal.
This is how we can say, like attracts like. We have similar frequencies. This is how we meet up with each other or befriend each other, because our energies are the same. We therefore attract each other. This is also important when attracting anything into your life. When you want to attract a partner into your life. You will attract someone like you and the person will mirror you.
You will find that people are coming into your life for some reason.  The reason can be a lesson.  The reason can be a lifetime. We get so engrossed in our roles that we forget that it is only a role and not the real person.
You’re busily going along with your life. What are our roles?  For a woman this would be mother, wife, sister, daughter and what in the job we choose to do.  For a man this would be father, husband, brother, son and whatever job you choose do.  We become so engrossed in being one of these that we forget that this is not the real us.  The real person is a lot more than that, the real person is the soul that decided to incarnate.
Let’s say for example husband and wife, these roles, are they the real you or are they just roles. So, are you forgetting the real you. What is the real you, the real you is the soul that has come here to play. The one thing we normally forget to do is the thing we came here to do. Play is growing through experience. I don’t believe that we came here to suffer. I believe this happens because we forget, we get so engrossed that we forget and then our mind goes on thinking something that is not real and we forget that we can change it and we can. We can change everything we want to. We can quit anything we want to, whenever we want to.
And that includes breathing. We can choose. Remember every single choice you make has a consequence.
Why do we call them miracles?
Things happen that are out of the ordinary, what we call ordinary. Anything we do not expect we call a miracle. Why is that-- is that because we do not understand the law of cause and effect?
Whatever you are thinking, whatever you are vibrating. Your frequency and thinking courses what happens in your life. So expect these miracles to happen.
Attachments-- just relax and to remove it from your thinking.
When we become more aware of how we are and the roles we play. We realize that we are so attached to all of this. To disconnect - just allow it to happen. This sounds a lot easier than it is. Because we are very much engrossed in our roles and that makes it particularly difficult to change our minds about something or our thinking. This is where affirmations, visualizations and Reflections come in very powerfully. Do keep on telling your mind that something is in a certain way for 21 days or so, your mind will believe that it is correct. Do an affirmation for that amount of time and your mind will believe that it is correct.
Thought forms:
Part of your frequency is what you are thinking. And that you are thinking manifested as a thought-form. Therefore if there is chaos in your life, what are you thinking?  If there is tranquility in your life, what are you thinking?

Don't limit the Is:

All That Is. This is where we limit the universe because it is rather scary to realize how huge and abundant the universe actually is and besides will we have an excuse for your pitiful life of poverty and despair if we allow, in our minds, all that is to be that huge.
Let’s take it this way, your mind’s eye is sitting on the moon, looking down to earth. Having a look at what is going on there. Up there the physical human being is so small that it is not visible. Keeping in mind the moon is very near to us. This gives you a slightly bigger view of one of the planets of your solar system. Then our solar system is one star in the Milky Way Galaxy. If you would like to see how many stars there are in the Milky Way. Go out of town and on a dark night look at the sky and see the stars. You will see a road of stars, this is the Milky Way, and those stars are our sun’s brothers and sisters. This Galaxy is one family in the Universe. Now that is what is meant by do not limit the Is. With our human eyes we cannot see even beyond this Galaxy. How can we see to the end of the Universe? Is there an end to the Universe? Maybe, maybe not!
Every person is a child of God:
Considering that “GOD” is all that is and every person has a soul. The seat of the soul is just above your heart chakra in your chest; this is connected to your Individuality point through your tan tien line. Your Individuality point is that part of the Source that represents you on a higher level. That is connected to the family soul. The family soul is connected directly to the Source-- “All that Is”. Therefore we are all children of “GOD”. We are all directly connected to “GOD”. We don’t need to go to a temple, church, any place of worship.
Any place you are is a place of worship. You are as holy as any of these people, that are considered a enlightened one, a son of God, a deity of some form.
We are all directly connected to that. What makes us different form enlightened people is that they realized that they are God. Then made use of that realization and made use of their birthright, as you have a birthright to heal your life, by becoming an enlightened one and becoming a master healer by becoming, a Messiah.
We can each choose to be healthy or sick, rich or poor, free or enslaved:
Whatever happens in your life is your choice.  What is happening in your mind, what is happening in your thinking? Whatever you are thinking manifests in the physical. As I have just described, you have a direct connection to All that Is.  You are a speck of light that is connected the Light that is the Source. (The crystal temple Reflection in Day 17 allows you to experience this beautifully.)
A beautiful thing I realized a while ago is that our chakras are the colors of the rainbow. Each and every one of us is a rainbow, and this is being made possible by the white light, which is the divine and is reflected in our being and therefore becomes a rainbow. The pot of gold at the end of the rainbow is the talents we bring forth into this world and the experiences that make our souls so much richer.
Healthy or sick: You’re a channel of divine energy. You can choose to heal your body, physical, mental, emotional or spiritual. If there is something that is just not as it should be, in other words, you have an illness in one of your bodies. You can choose to heal that.

You choose to be rich or poor. Keep in mind on which level are you rich or poor. Is that physically, mentally, emotionally or spiritually? Think about that one. You already have everything. Like attracts like, what are you thinking?
You can choose to be free or enslaved. Enslaved does not necessarily mean a physical enslavement it could be an emotional enslavement. Fear can make you a slave. You can be stuck in a situation because of fear and you feel you cannot get out of it, because you fear the change. You fear that you’re not capable. Whatever the fear, you fear and therefore you are stuck where you are. Perhaps it is a mental enslavement, as you don’t think that you are enough. Perhaps you should have a look at being enough. 
Cling to your limitations and the flow of the universe will not sweep you are way.  You will not go with the flow.  Let go and be free.
This comes back to you can choose to cling to the fears you have running in your mind or you can let go and live your life free of them. Allow the universe to communicate or send you energy whenever the infinity intelligence has healing and/or a message for you, and chances are that is a million times a day.
We’re just not listening. What comes to mind here is the synchronicities. When you go with the flow, of the universe, you allow it to take you in whatever direction it feels you should be going. To become more aware of whom you are, where you are and what is going on around you. By being more aware of what is going on around you, you get shown by the universe where to go. When you go with this flow that the universe is showing you.
You are free. Because you have been shown, what you choose to come and do. Of course you are always free to change that. Life is so much easier when you go with the synchronicities. Once you have asked “Who am I?”  “Why am I here?” you will be shown.
If you keep on resisting, the universe will push you into the direction that you asked to be pushed. So make life easier for yourself and go with the flow.
You are the creator of your universe! 
The Universe says:
Thy will be done. Thy will is my will.
I must tell you my story. Years ago I was told happiness is within, and I look to the person and responded with “Yea right.”
After working on all the gremlins and coming to the realization that true happiness comes from being disconnected from and allowing everybody their own space, and not getting emotionally involved in the games, as played by humanity.
Now I agree happiness comes from within. As with everything else, it is a choice you make. Make up your mind and be happy!

Andrew has this to say, “I am a computer programmer and when I looked at this information I thought this is people programming. My life was a mess; I was working most of the time and as you can image this was not good for my private life, yeah what private life. I started to read as much as possible about ways I could improve my life. I found that there is a wealth of information available and as with everything you have to sift through everything and make up your mind as to what is useful and what is not. Unlike computers we can choose our programming and subsequently the end result.”


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Next Week – 10 - Managing Anger


Life Coach - Be Your Own-9B



Be, do have

New vision

All you need to do is let go of your old belief system
and adopt your own new system
and your vision will change to a new one.
One created by you, especially for you.
This may seem back to front to you, because you are used to have, do, be or was that do, have, be. Be your authentic self, be on purpose. This means you have to know what your life purpose is. To know that ‘go to the Eulogy and contract part of this book “chapter Thirteen”. From your contract you have written up a five-year plan. You can realize what it is you came here to do.
This contract is a contract between you, your spirit guides, and All that is. And by doing this you will have everything you have on your contract and more.
What’s in it for me?
If you are on purpose, you are doing what you came here to do, you will have what you intended to have and this will take you to a new level of thinking.
To change to the be, do, have method of living you need to change your way of thinking and when you have changed to this way of thinking you’ll realize that whatever happens, both parties win.
You will have win/win thinking. There won’t be any conflict, because if it does not work out, learn the lesson and move on. You don’t have to hang onto all that baggage. That includes the people that do not fit into your life anymore.

Fear and insecurity

With NLP you learn to stay in your adult, this is also known as self-control. Fear actually is bringing you a message. There will always be a message in the fear.
Fear and anger, all the hot emotions have a lot of energy behind them and when you put a lot of energy into something. You are sending a profound message out to the universe saying this is how it is and if you can change that fear or anger into a passion for your life and your life purpose. The universe will allow you the honor of adding more energy to it and you will find that shifts come quite quickly and there will be coincidences so that change can happen at a fast pace as you clear yourself from the fear, anger and other blockage you need to deal with.
When you fear someone or something you automatically come from a space of being insecure. When you fear someone you are not your authentic self and therefore your personal integrity is not in place and your subconscious mind knows this and therefore is informing you that this is the case.
You perceive it as fear where you should perceive it as “I have moved off my path and shall have a look at what I need to do to get back on it, to get the flow going.” Because when you are secure in whom you are, you can only be working from the law of love and life. You can only work in the positive when you are in your personal integrity. When you are in fear, have a look at this. Check if you have shifted into your child and out of your adult. Every time you move out of your adult and into your child you will fear whomever the person is there with you, because you are feeling that you are inferior to that person, then that person has a say over your life.
Let me tell you something about that. No-one has a say over your life. As an adult your parents do not even have a say over your life, anymore. Although it is good to show them respect, your parents have a say over your life as long as you live in their house. In other words, when you live in your own “dwelling” you are not inferior to them or to anybody. For example, if you are in your adult, check where you feel you are not good enough:
1.   Where do I feel I cannot do what is expected of me?
2.   Do I want to do what is expected of me?
Perhaps what you are feeling that you think is fear is “I am being pushed into something I do not want to do, and because I know it is not for the good of all concerned I am uncomfortable with this.”
Whatever you do, make sure you always have a background feeling of love.
Whatever you do there may be fear, this fear may be pointing you in a direction. However, if you do not follow the direction it is pointing you into. The fear may be a message from your subconscious mind or a message from your guide. You perceive it, as a fear because the feeling you are getting is a knot in your stomach. What it actually is showing you, is “do not go there”
The best law of life I have ever heard is “Do as you like, as long as it harms no one.” With no one is meant, no humans, no animal life, and no plant life. If you are doing something that could possibly harm someone, don’t do it. The someone includes yourself.
Love yourself. When you love yourself sufficiently you can love everybody around you sufficiently. That includes animal life and plant life.

Conflict and difference:

When there is conflict, both parties have an opinion and both parties belief that their opinion is the correct one. So inherently that means they are different. Something that is important to note here is that it is not possible for anyone to change anyone else. If change occurs it is that person’s choice to change. Normally what happens when change occurs is, things have become too uncomfortable for a person and this person chooses to change, either their point of view or they work a bit deeper and have a look at what is happening in their subconscious mind and they work with their belief systems and change that.
Tools for changing, NLP, Family constellations, Reiki, hands on energy healing, Aroma oils. All of this; works on changing what is in your mind. The Taoists believe that we have a spiritual mind, an emotional mind, and a physical mind; your spiritual mind is the memory you have brought in from past lives.
Your emotional mind is the memory from this lifetime and your physical mind is your cellular memory, this combines your family memory and our spiritual memory. The three-mind Reflection is in the Reflection day.
NLP is a practical way of changing what is in your mind and thus the way you see the world. I say practical, because there are processes you can do, that allow you to be physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually in your adult. The adult comes from transformation analysis because there you work with parent, child and adult. With NLP you can learn to control the fear by staying in your adult. 

The hunger to be understood

If you have to justify your way of living, what you choose to do then you are saying to the other person. Please see me. Please see me as being okay. Please see me as good enough for whatever may come your way. This means you are not in your personal integrity.
How can I say that, whose life are you living, is what you should be asking yourself, because if you’re living to please someone else then you’re not living your life, you are living the other person’s life not your own.
When you are in a relationship with someone, of course you need to communicate with your partner. However, that does not mean that you will live your life according to what they want, because you will always be insecure and you will always need to be understood by the other person and you will never be good enough for them or for you, because you will make your choices based on what someone else thinks you should be doing.

The Blame game:

You know: they are doing it to me. Playing the blame game is always going to leave you as the victim. Yes, chances are you are going to feel hopeless. I suppose even useless. In other words, you will never be good enough. Here we go back to good enough for whom, good enough for what. You are a unique individual; you chose to live the life you are living that already makes you good enough
This is a fascinating little game, as long as you are playing the blame game you do not have to take responsibility for your life. Yes everybody is doing it to you-- it has nothing to do with you. The bad news is your life is your responsibility and has everything to do with you. Now is a good time to start checking what you are thinking.
The good news is once you accept that your life is your indaba, you will want to take responsibility for your life and with this comes a sense of self, you did not have when you were playing the blame game.

Personal stagnation:

If you are feeling stuck in a place, a relationship, a job or any part of your life. To start off with “feeling stuck” means you are uncomfortable for whatever reason. Stuck in the mud.
This reminds me of the story of Piggy. He was wallowing in the mud and got stuck in it. Donkey comes past and Piggy says to Donkey, “Please help me out, I am stuck.” And Donkey says, “I can’t, I am too small.” Mother cow comes past and says, “Piggy, are you still in that mud?” Piggy responds with, “Help me, I am stuck.” Mother cow says, “I will have to go and get help” and toddles off. Piggy does not know what happened to Mother cow because she does not come back.
The moral of this little tale is when you are stuck you can cry out for help as much as you like. If you don’t change your thinking, your way of doing things and, your habits, you will not get unstuck. The way we see the problem is the problem and if you don’t see it as a problem anymore. Problem solved!
The problem would have been solved because you have changed your mind to “This is an opportunity to learn something.” So what can we learn from the stuck Piggy.
1)      Piggy could not drag itself out of the mud, because it got too fat. Meaning -- you are not getting to your life purpose because you have too much baggage with you.
2)      Crying out for help, out there, does not help, because the help has to come from inside of you. You are the only one who is going to get you unstuck. If you are like Piggy and you feel you are stuck see the problem from a different point of view.
This brings me to “what you resist persists.” So go with the flow! Allow yourself to be guided along the way!


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Next Week – 9C – The Field